I deleted my Facebook account. And i'm OK. Promise.

I Deleted My Facebook Account and the World Didn’t End

Posted by · August 28, 2012 3:21 pm

A few weeks back the Daily Mail ran a piece claiming that NOT joining Facebook may be a sign that you’re a psychopath. I’ve been a nominal Facebook user since 2008, and am by no means a Facebook hater. But something about the idea that I have to be a member of a certain social site to be “normal” rubbed me the wrong way.

What would happen if I deleted my Facebook account? First of all, I wouldn’t become a psychopath, regardless of what the Daily Mail thinks. But would I miss it? I decided to break down the pros and cons of keeping versus deleting my Facebook account.

My Reasons to Keep Facebook

  • Stay connected with people in other cities and countries
  • See photos of family and friends
  • Find out about events happening nearby
  • Invitations to parties
  • Keeping people updated on events in my life

These are pretty obvious, the reasons most people sign up for Facebook in the first place. But are these reasons enough to keep me from deleting my account?

My Reasons to Delete Facebook

Too many pictures of babies. I get it, Junior just made his first poopie in the potty today and you are SOOO excited. But if the kid isn’t mine or an immediate relative, I am not interested. Really. Not interested at all.

Friends drinking on warm days.  “Just chillaxin’ on the river with my brahs and some brews!” What a revelation…it’s warm and you have a beer, nothing new there.

Events I don’t want to attend. I’m sure you’re going to have a blast at your Tupperware/Amway/Kill the Keg party, but I…I just can’t make it. I’ve got a thing at a place…you understand, right? On second thought, from the incessant reminders, maybe you don’t.

Can’t hide from people. Reconnecting is great and all, but there’s some people I’d rather not see again. Ever. Even online.

If you know me, you probably know what I’m doing already. Keeping people updated about what’s going on in my life did make the pro list above, but when I really think about it, the people who need to know what’s going on in my life most likely find out via means other than Facebook. So who am I updating on Facebook? Gawkers and stalkers? Maybe that’s not a pro after all.

Verdict: Yep. I Deleted my Facebook Account

After weighing all the pros and cons, I decided to cut the cord. Bye bye, Facebook.

Turns out nobody missed me…it took about a week and half for anyone to notice I wasn’t on Facebook anymore.  Of course, that probably has a lot to do with how actively I used the service, or how frequently my friends stalk me online. But guess what Facebook, the feeling is mutual…I don’t miss you, either.

Articles about the decline in Facebook’s stock don’t surprise me…not just because of my own anecdotal experience, either. A free service valued at over a hundred billion dollars? Something’s amiss here.

What Facebook does really well is act as a modern Rolodex.  It makes your contact list readily available wherever you are.  Additionally, Facebook has found an interesting niche in authentication, as many online apps and sites allow for quick logins via Facebook. That is FB’s strength. Not social media, not online advertising, and not a place to store your photos.

So while I may not need the service, I do find value in it, but not for the reasons most people think.  Having thousands of “friends” really isn’t as interesting as having a dozen  real friends.

Try deleting your account.  I dare you (Facebook offers a 14 day “cooling off” period, so you can get it back if you really can’t stand it). But I think you’ll be surprised at how freeing it is to disconnect from the machine.

  • Never get a baby pic except new born colleague’s about once a month
    Never get invited to a keg party but to cool gettogethers nearby or occasionally in sfo
    Sometimes when I see friends checking in and chillaxin I join them – that is why they checked in.
    Tons of people I know well show a surprising obey or similar on FB I had no idea they practised.
    I do not even chat…

  • James Murrell

    Great Read.. snap i did this 3 months ago, and its great, but i still do use G+ and Twitter….

  • misha

    Thanks for this post and congratulations on your break up from Facebook! I have never had an account on Facebook and have strongly argued against having one. Studies have shown that positive feeling arise while looking at your own facebook page, but anxiety and envy come about as soon as you click to check out “friends” page. Yes, facebook can be a great way to keep connected with people and find out whats going on, but I have never missed an important event that I wanted to attend because I don’t have an account. Life goes on without Facebook, and in a few short years new platforms will arrive and make the website simply obsolete.

  • mbizup

    Good post.

    I currently have a Facebook account which I occasionally post pics or times from my running watch on. I enjoy seeing what other people are up to… but my primary reason, hands down, for using the account to keep up with my teenage son’s online activities, and nudge him when those activities border on the unsafe. I will eventually delete the account myself, but the time is not right yet 🙂

  • Richard

    I deleted my facebook profile too. And I feel free and awesome! 🙂